Wednesday, 29 January 2014

Farewell to a beautiful lady

On the 14th of December 2011 I received a comment on my family history blog from a lady named Brigid Simpson.  I had nearly given up hope of finding other family members interested in putting together more of our family's story.

Brigid was a third cousin and I will forever be grateful to her and her sister Mary for the opportunity to see what our common great great grandmother, Alice Morgan nee Kelly, looked like.

Photos were even sent of my great grandmother, Mary Agnes Adams nee Morgan, in her youth and her brothers and sisters.

Brigid was as excited as I was about being able to share our stories and photos.

In December 2013 I was so saddened to be told that this beautiful lady was losing her six month battle with melanoma. She died on the 7th of January 2014.

When my mum died in 2012 Brigid said to me that it was always hard to lose your mum no matter what her age. How right she was.  I feel for her boys.

I wanted to pay tribute to Brigid and her contribution to our ancestral stories so her husband Paul has kindly shared here Brigid's eulogy and a tribute by their sons rugby team, the London Wasps.

In lieu of flowers Brigid's family requested donations be made to their nominated charity Carers, UK

I dearly wish I could have met her in person.  I am so sorry for your loss Paul, Joe, Michael and Mary, Frances and Stuart.

Until we do finally meet Rest In Peace Brigid, I will always remember you.

Eulogy for Brigid Simpson   (27 December 1955 - 7 January 2014)

Brigid was a beautiful and remarkable person.  Her warm smile lit up the room and lit up my life.  And looking around me now, how she would have enjoyed today.  Brigid loved this Abbey, with the beautiful flowers, and she loved St Benedict's too.  It was the only school our boys ever attended.  Bennies has been a major part of our lives.  She would have certainly loved the magnificent music, but most of all, she would have been so thrilled to see you all here.  If Brigid were here I imagine that she would thank each one of you for coming, whether you've walked from just around the corner or flown from NZ or Australia.  Brigid would thank you for what you've done for all of us.

The love and support shown to all of us over the last six months, and especially today, is overwhelming.  Brigid would want to thank everyone - gratitude came very easily to Brigid.  I also imagine that Brigid would ask you about you; and she would actually listen to your answer.  I also suspect that for some of you, she'd have some plans in mind too - and probably help you hatch them.  Brigid's interest in people is one of her defining characteristics.  It's one reason we felt special in her company - she made us all feel better about ourselves.

Born and brought up in Cambridge New Zealand, and the youngest of four, I call them the Cambridge four, she had an enviably strong relationship with her siblings.  Fra and Stuart have come over from New Zealand in last few months and Fra is here now, and the extraordinary Mary has been ever-present at our side, suspending her life to share our 24/7 vigil at Brigid's bedside for weeks and weeks.  Thank you Mary.

In our home life Brigid provided the basis for our standards, values and behaviours.  One girl outnumbered by three boisterous boys - she didn't always get her own way, but we always knew what she wanted. (Actually she usually did get her own way!)  She was forever kind, caring and thoughtful, artfully and lovingly steering us to be better people.  She was the architect of our family - I am still a work in progress but she has done a wonderful job on Joseph and Michael.  Brigid was immensely and justifiably proud of you; you are a credit to your Mother.

Brigid was clearly highly intelligent but more tellingly always a wise-head.  Calm, strong, clear-thinking.  All obvious qualities for her work as a doctor or medico-legal adviser, but far more often brought to bear in her relationships with family and friends.  She has always been my counsel and, when I'm ever in need in the future, I will always think "what would Brigid do?"

Brigid was great to be around. Life-enhancing, warm, positive, mischievous, energetic – she was my best friend and, having read so many wonderful sympathy cards, for many of you, she was your best friend too.

I must also mention her courage over the last six months. Brigid consciously decided she would not “battle with cancer” – she did not want her body to be a battleground. She was not stoic in the sense of a stiff-upper lip, instead of battling her cancer she faced her fate with a humble acceptance. She accepted her illness and was grateful for what she had. She didn’t cry or feel self-pity she feasted, drank champagne, laughed – and she kept our spirits high (we are the ones who did the crying). I have wondered how she did it. One day in a Royal Marsden Hospital waiting room, I read an article about courage that concluded “Courage is a quality of morality and character much more than muscle and balls”. And I think that’s about right; she had faith, morality and character in abundance.

I am very proud of Brigid, I love her and admire her. I am privileged to have shared 30 years together (the 30th anniversary of our first meeting was last Tuesday). I will miss her deeply every day of my life.

Paul Simpson, Ealing Abbey – 20 January 2014

Below is a transcription of their tribute from the London Wasps programme.
After qualifying as a doctor, Brigid left New Zealand in 1982 to see the world and, in her words, “to get away from rugby, racing and beer.” That didn’t last
long. She met Paul, a keen rugby player who’s known to like a beer. A year later they married, then moved to Sydney, Australia with Paul’s job.

Joe, her first son, was born in Sydney and Michael born two years later after Brigid and Paul returned home to England in 1990. The boys attended St
Benedict’s School in Ealing where they first played rugby. Both boys were part of Wasps Academy system from age 15; both represented Middlesex, London & South East Division and both played England age group rugby.

Brigid and Paul barely have ever missed a game; home or away, Brigid could usually be found pacing the touchline supporting her beloved boys (and praying for an injury-free game). If you’ve ever seen Joe make a searing break and heard a lady scream “Go, Jum’, Go!”, that would have been Brigid!

Brigid was diagnosed with malignant melanoma last June. She bore her illness with extraordinary courage and at no time did she complain or despair.
She continued to spend more time thinking of others rather than herself and was deeply grateful for the love and support provided by family and friends, particularly in those last few difficult months.

She listened to the Radio Devon radio broadcast of Wasps’ heroic win against Exeter from her hospital bed. Within a couple of hours of the final whistle, Joe
re-joined the family at her bedside, and she died just 36 hours later on Tuesday morning.

Brigid will be sadly missed.

Tuesday, 28 January 2014

John Pike/Pyke - my first Aussie arrival

John Pike/Pyke was my 3rd great grandfather.
He was the son of Joseph Pike and Elizabeth nee Cartwright of Rathangan, Kildare, Ireland.  John was a Bounty Immigrant on the ship Coromandel arriving in Australia on the 10th of July 1840,  occupation listed as farmyard clerk.

His sisters Eliza, Rebecca and Sarah had already arrived here in February of that year in the company of their other sister Marian, a school teacher, and her husband John Armstrong.

John Armstrong was a schoolmaster and he kept a diary with regular daily entries.  This diary held the only mention or record of John Pike's death in 1847 as for some unknown reason no death registration or certificate has been found.

John Pike had become an Overseer at two Aboriginal Protectorates in Victoria.

In 1840 the Aboriginal Protectorate at Mitchellstown was re-located to the future site of Murchison township, with William Le Souef in charge.  Murchison or Goulburn was one of four Aboriginal Protectorates.

On the 7th of September, 1842 John married Isabella Beaton at St. James Cathedral Melbourne.

They went on to have 3 daughters.
Jane born 9 Aug 1843 at Goulburn River, Murchison.
Eliza born 17 Nov 1844 at River Loddon
Mary Ann (my great great grandmother) born 10 May 1847 at River Loddon

Eliza and Mary Ann weren't baptised until January 1848.

In 1843 Isabella was appointed school mistress or matron of the Aboriginal establishment , for this situation it was said she was well qualified with her clean habits and general good conduct.

The protectorate system was abolished in 1851, and the remains of the Murchison site have not been established.

John Pike left the Goulburn Aboriginal Station on the 6th of May 1844 for the River Loddon Aboriginal Protectorate.  The Assistant Protector of Aborigines there was Edward Stone Parker.

Loddon River Protectorate photo from Wikimedia commons

An entry in John Armstrong's diary for January 1848 reads as follows:
"Had a letter from a Mr. Bicknell, Aboriginal Station, River Loddon, Port Phillip district, containing intelligence of the death of John Pike on the 10 Nov.  He has left a wife and 3 daughters under 4 years.  His disorder was Tympanitis and was preceded by influenza which he got while on a visit to Melbourne.  He had returned from there in the beginning of Nov.  Mrs P was living at Mr Parker's - Head of the station"

John Pike's widow remarried in November 1848 to George Harrison ............ and there lies a whole other story.

Monday, 20 January 2014

Australia Day Challenge 2014: C’mon Aussie

Fellow blogger, Pauleen of Family history across the seas has created the geneameme
  "Australia Day Challenge 2014: C’mon Aussie" which I am hoping may help unlock the "bloggers block" I have been experiencing lately.  Although lack of time hasn't helped much either.

Pauleen says she quite coincidentally came up with 26 questions for the geneameme which is rather fitting as the 26th of January is Australia day.

My first ancestor to arrive in Australia was
My 3rd great grandfather, John Pike   from Kildare, Ireland  arrived in Australia on the 10th July 1840 by the Ship "Coromandel". He was 27 years old and single.
All the rest, apart from my paternal grandfather from New Zealand, had arrived and settled in Australia by 1865.
I have Australian Royalty (tell us who, how many and which Fleet they arrived with)
Um, I'm not sure what "Australian Royalty" is.
I’m an Aussie mongrel, my ancestors came to Oz from:
Scotland, Ireland, Northern Ireland, England, Prussia and New Zealand
Did any of your ancestors arrive under their own financial steam?
One was my Kiwi grandfather who came to Australia about 1936 and a few early ones must have swam because I can't find them on ships but all those I can find arriving by ship seem to have been assisted immigrants. 
How many ancestors came as singles?
How many came as couples?
Five couples
How many came as family groups?
Six families
Did one person lead the way and others follow?
Yes a few siblings of my direct ancestors had already settled here so that others followed.  And others had siblings follow them here.
What’s the longest journey they took to get here?
The following account of my great great grandmother, Isabella Beaton's travel to Australia.  I bet it felt like forever to them.
INDIA - Lost at Sea 1841
The barque INDIA sailed from Greenock Scotland on June 4th 1841 carrying 193 bounty immigrants and crew bound for the Australian colony of Port Phillip. On the 19th July, six weeks into the voyage and being some 200 miles from land and 1200 miles from Rio de Janeiro, the ship caught fire and sank. 17 Souls perished in the disaster with the remainder being rescued by the crew of the ROLAND - a French whaling vessel. 

The survivors were conveyed to Rio de Janeiro where the British Government hired another ship the GRINDLAY to transport them to Port Phillip where they arrived on October 22, some four and a half months after leaving Scotland. Newspaper reports of the day provided a graphic description of the tragedy and the miraculous rescue of almost all those on board the INDIA.
Did anyone make a two-step emigration via another place?
No directly to Australia, apart from the tragic detour listed above.
Which state(s)/colony did your ancestors arrive?
Did they settle and remain in one state/colony?
Did they stay in one town or move around?
Most moved around but a couple stayed put in Melbourne
Do you have any First Australians in your tree?
Were any self-employed?
Yes quite a few
What occupations or industries did your earliest ancestors work in?
builders, labourers and farmers.  One family were Hotel keepers/publicans/licensed victuallers
Does anyone in the family still follow that occupation?
Did any of your ancestors leave Australia and go “home”?
No, all who came to Australia are buried here.
What’s your State of Origin?
Do you still live there?
Yes I do
Where was your favourite Aussie holiday place as a child?
Staying with my maternal grandparents where ever they lived at the time.
Any special place you like to holiday now?
What's a holiday? 
Share your favourite spot in Oz:
Anywhere my family are 
Any great Aussie adventure you’ve had?
Driving over Mt Kosciuszko a few years ago.  (I come from the flat country)
What’s on your Australian holiday bucket list?
Western Australia
How do you celebrate Australia Day?
work :(

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